My dad was a good man in all the ways that used to mean more than they do now. He worked hard. He paid his bills and lived within his means. He loved his family. He served his country and his community.
There’s a reason they call his generation the greatest.
Born on the South Dakota prairie, Dad was the oldest child of a large family that str
At 16, my dad left school, taking a job driving a truck to
help support the family when his father became an invalid. In 1944, at age 18,
he joined the Army for the money that would be sent back home to the family. He
trained in Oklahoma, then boarded a troop ship for La Havre, France
(“Twenty-one days over; 21 days back; sick as a dog every minute of ’em,” Dad
recalled of his shipboard experiences.) He trained as a radio operator and was
stationed in Germany during the Allied Occupation after the fighting was over.
In the army he learned to smoke and to dance. Upon his return home, my disapproving
mother cured him of the first habit, but he loved to dance all his life.
Who are these wild kids? Not my parents, surely!
Letters and photos from the period of my parents’ courtship are a revelation. It’s always strange to imagine one’s parents as young and in love. Especially for me, a late-in-life baby who only knew my folks in their middle and later years, the photos of a laughing young man with movie-star looks (Mom has admitted she married him because he looked like Robert Walker; alas, soon after they wed, he began losing all that curly brown hair) is hard to square with the somewhat taciturn, very responsible man I called Daddy.
Call me
biased, but I think Dad was better looking.
After early jobs as a movie projectionist, night watchman and a
particularly disagreeable stint at a hatchery, where my soft-hearted pop was
tasked with manually drowning chicks (he didn’t last long there), Dad took a
job with a lumber supply company. Practicing the kind of company loyalty that
doesn’t exist today, he spent the rest of his working life with them. A 1960
transfer took the family from Gary, SD, to Osakis, MN, where I was born in
1965. Dad quickly became active in this little community. He was a member of
the VFW, on the board of the parochial school, and spent decades as a volunteer
fireman and EMT. He was elected to the city council, serving 23 years
in that capacity, followed by three terms as mayor.
Dad and
Ralph
I’m proud of my Dad for these accomplishments, but remember him
also for so much more …
§ He
loved music- though I never heard him sing a note- and babies and animals. (His
springer spaniel Ralph was the constant companion of his retirement years.)
§ He was
colorful in his speech, fond of descriptive analogies that have found their way
into my own lexicon: “blacker than a wolf’s mouth,” “fuller than a woodtick,”
“dumber than a box of rocks,” “wilder than a pet coon,” etc. He gave people
nonsensical nicknames like Cabbage and Sliver and Scratchpad.
§ He was
proud of his children and attended all of our school programs – including being
the only father at the Future Homemakers of America annual banquet the year I
was president of that club; bizarrely, the “entertainment” that year was a
short film about venereal disease, which must have been deeply mortifying for
my rather prudish pop.
§ He and
my mother remained committed to each other for half a century.
§ He was
soft-hearted and generous.
True, Dad wasn’t exactly Ward Cleaver. Patience was not a virtue
he espoused. He was quick-tempered and hard-nosed, moody and often ornery
(characteristics we attributed to his German heritage). Dad held what some
might call “traditional values” that are frankly appalling today – for example,
my brother was exempt from chores like washing dishes because Dad felt doing
“women’s work” would turn him into a sissy. Dad suffered chronic, debilitating
back pain nearly all his life and what I suspect was lifelong clinical
depression that was only addressed and treated near the end of his life. His
final years were marred by painful physical and cognitive decline. He was, in
body and spirit, old before his time – and he left us too early, succumbing on
May 12, 2001, to adult acute respiratory distress syndrome incident to
pancreatitis. He was just 75.
I don’t think my father, who was always keenly aware of his
humble origins, lack of education and modest financial status, would have
described himself as a successful man. Yet the church was full for his funeral
and many spoke of how much he meant to them and how appreciated were his
contributions and essential good-heartedness. His passing merited a front-page
tribute in the local newspaper. My Dad was more respected, more loved, in his lifetime
than I think he knew.
Clarence
Junior Mohror
After 15 years I still think of and miss my father every day. I
am grateful for all the things he taught me … about working hard, taking
responsibility, giving back. I miss hearing him refer to me as “the little
one.” I miss his bear hugs. I miss his not-heard-often-enough laugh.
Psychologists say that women, when choosing a life partner, look for a model of
their father. Perhaps that’s why I remain a spinster; I’ve never found a man to
match my dad. As they say, a good man is hard to find. I am blessed to have
known, loved and been loved by one of the best.
Happy Father’s Day, Daddy.